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My own blog spoke to me.

fonzandcancer blogging to encourage.

So here I was today, emptying the conservatory with my wife, finding new homes for some things and throwing other things. We had a chat to a guy who was doing a job for us and just generally having a tidy up. I was moving forwards by standing and doing. I have not written for 3 days, due to the excessive pain through doing a bit on skater day in the rain. Yesterday my friend Rob blogged for me reliving me of my post duty. What a special gift it is to have friends, even ones you have never met, these include people from all over the world. From England to Australia. One of my friends reminded me that I can. By saying the words. Mark, you can, you really can. That was my friend in Australia Amanda, she made me read my own blog.

On reading it again, and…

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Helping the helper.

fonzandcancer blogging to encourage.

Helping the Helper

Hi, my name is Rob and I’m a friend of Mark’s from cyberspace. We never met in person. Anyway, you all know Mark has made a promise to himself that if he is able he would write each day with hope of encouraging someone in doubt or pain. To inspire them to take that one more step in the one-step at a time journey. So here’s the irony. Mark is the one who needs some help now. So that’s what I’m doing, helping in that only way I can. I offered to “guest blog” so that his vision can continue and he can rest and do some healing without having to think so much about writing or not writing. This one’s for you Fonz!

There are things we have to experience in life that we don’t like. Things we rather not have anything to do with. And…

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My Living List.

A must read.

Indisposed and Undiagnosed

My apologies for my recent absence. I am sitting here fighting through my brain fog to write this piece, so I apologise also for spelling mistakes and grammatical errors.

I could sit here and tell you that I’ve been busy, which I guess is true to some extent.
But truth be told, I just couldn’t bring myself to write.

I hit a low point – one of those extremely low points where you cannot find one single strand of string to hold onto and live through another day. I went through a lot in a short month’s time. I dealt with heartache and the loss of a relationship I was quite fond of, I had numerous inconclusive, boring appointments, I faced issues with my Government about my health, and I naturally battled my inner Depression and Anxiety demons as a result of everything.

I was not brave enough, or well…

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Getting connections that become clients.

As a startup entrapenuer the most important thing is making connections. You will make connections at conferences at seminars heck even in the ladies room at Walmart, hey we all have to go to the bathroom let’s connect! Could be a potential client get that exposure😘

The backbone of a service orientated business is you. You are your brand lets check you out. Reherse everything with a person who will give you the raw truth.

Start with your voice is it clear and confirming or harsh and demanding. Your appearance,  you don’t have to look like the cover of a magazine however, in public the pajama look well let’s say I would not want you coaching me. Your passion, is your statement scripted sounding like everyone fits in the same box. Are  you loud and jumpy saying how much you believe in what you are doing practically scaring the person from you. Finally your purpose, this is the defining moment when a potential client might just overlook the ketchup stain on your shirt if they believe you can get them results. It’s in this moment when the deals are made. Speak to them as if you are addressing yourself. Tell them the changes you have helped implement with other clients and how successful they are now. Do not waiver on your belief in yourself. Do not be overly pushy.

Always have your business cards on hand. Napkins get lost and well just are not professional. Thank them for their time and the universe will do the rest. I personally don’t call them. I let them decide if I am a right fit without pushing them  You have done your part. If they connect everything was in perfect order. If they don’t you can reacess and know their will be other clients. Never give up!

Love ya,




I have a lump in my breast😮

I have just come back from seeing my Rheumatologist. I started on Methroxate injectable and I have gotten more nodules . I have one on each shoulder one on my thumb and one in my breast and one in the back of my head.

The one that is in my breast I almost broke a sweat out on. It hurts I mean really hurts. Now I want to say I have only seen my Rheumatologist once I see his PA and I love him. He examined my breast and said it feels like and then I just stopped listening. I did not cry which I have to pat myself on my back for. He said get your Mammogram luckily I get my Mammograms yearly and I am due for mine this month. I am going to get it ASAP.

What have I learned is that I  am stronger than  I think. I also am grateful that I have grown to know that all will be well.

I write this in transparency because breast health is a scarey situation. We want to keep quiet about it. However, get your mammograms and if you have any changes tell your Doctor, PA or nurse immediately.!

I am stronger than I think.! I have a breast lump and I will be ok.



Stress and RA don’t mix

Stress is a four letter word that should be banned. Stress on any person with and illness or not is a burden. Stress can come in many forms self generated as in a drama queen. Stress can also come from situations you have nothing to do with. However, stress causes people everyday powerful emotional drain. If I get stressed my body will lock up instantly. Now if that is the response to stress for me with a suppressed immune system what about you?. Take time to love yourself. Put you first. I know that is hard because as women we are supposed to be a brick. Well over time and erosion even a brick will break down. We are born dependent for feeding and for life. We will leave dependent sometimes for the same things. It is the in between that matters. Live as stress free as you can in the meantime. Your body and soul will thank you immensely. IMG_2628

Chemotheraphy needle can’t touch my thickness…

I have a thickness others may call aIMG_0574weakness.

I am voluptuous and stellar during all my treatments

I am so glad that my body dimension is thick in the hips

Because when that needle hits it never misses

Yes I am lucky to be curvy and round

Especially during a time when illness has me held down

I have never been a bone o sorry once I was for a lover

She was a choclate delight who liked her women thin and no other

Well she is long gone and glad for that

Cause I would have put on this weight and she would have called me fat

With all I am going through that would not of went over well

So I married my wife and she is thick as hell